The great philosopher Yogi Berra is well known for saying, “If you come to a fork in the road, take it.” That’s good advice because if you remain at that juncture of your life you are stuck there. The problem is how does one know which path to take.
I’m at the stage of life where I sometimes play the “What if…” game. What if I had made a career of the Navy? What if I had pursued my education earlier in life or chose a different career? What if I had invested my money differently? The list goes on. There’s nothing wrong with asking those questions as long as you are not beating yourself up for not having made different choices. This is also a good way of reminding ourselves that choices have consequences because as we continue through life we will continue to be forced to make choices. There will always be forks in the road forcing us to choose a path to take.
How do we choose which path to take? One of the best ways is to have a set of goals towards which you are working. If this path helps you achieve your life goals then it is often the right path to choose. Goals come out of having a vision for your life rather than just drifting through life reacting to whatever comes your way. You determine the vision and then set goals to help you achieve that vision. Once you do that it becomes much easier to choose the right path to take when confronted with alternatives.
Another helpful way to choose the best path is to have a coach help you make those decisions. I recently shared how a coach helped me choose between two alternative paths. Both could have been good choices. I was undecided about whether to seek other employment or further my education. My coach asked me questions that helped me decide the best choice was the education. I’ve never regretted making that decision. My coach did not make the decision for me; she helped me determine for myself that was the best choice.
As I have coached various people over the years we have often focused on forks in the road for their lives. As a coach it was not my job to make their decision for them but to ask questions to help them determine the best option for them. It’s been exciting to see people who had been stuck at a crossroads in their live suddenly have a light bulb go off in their heads as they realized the best option for them.
If you find yourself at a fork in the road and need someone to help coach you through the process of deciding which direction to go, I would be glad to help. DM me and see if having a coach at this stage of your life would be beneficial to you.